Dont know

Im bit in situation that i dont know how to react.Verward
i want advise
what would u do when u know that a person is telling lies.
The lier knows that i know he is telling lies.
The person he lies to ……………is not aware of that. 
The truth will only hurt.
Will i be silent for ever?  Yes ??? no???? yes???? no????
 friendship is like sand in your hand: 
if held loosely in the palm of your hand, it stays there,
but as soon as you close your hand tightly, it slips through your fingers
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27 Responses to Dont know

  1. T says:

    Depends on situation, but still I would rather know the truth, thought it would be very painful. Sincerity can hurt but also heals. I would first advice a lier to tell the truth, and if not, than I would probably disclose him.Hug,T

  2. Lilla Seville says:

    lLIES BEGETS MORE LIES. They hurt others and when they catch up with the liar it shall be a bitter pill. Do not allow yourself to be drwn in no matter how much of a friend the liar is as when it all comes out others say you knew and the problem is ouhed in your direction though you are not the culprit. It hurts because of this friend thing but who will they lie about next. Could it be you? all the best. Lilla

  3. Princess says:

    Oh MJ! I know EXactly wot ur going thru, I have had a very similar quandry! Please go read my Blog "A Hard Time" March 2009, I wud link u 2 it but I dunno how- Soz! I think u m ay find it & the cvomments, very helpful! Sending u positive Vibes that u will do the "right thing" , Luv PF XXX

  4. Babblelot says:

    Always be truthful and be there for support. Nobody should play somebody else’s lie game, ever.

  5. Beth says:

    I definitely agree with Toodie.

  6. Joe says:

    I have to share Beth’s support of Toodie here my friend…living a lie doesn’t seem like an option.

  7. Androgoth says:

    Sweeti..This is indeed such a troubling dilemma my friend and yet the solution can be simplistic if applied in a subtle and controlled environment, of course in some circumstances the outcome cannot fully be explored without first acknowledging the complexities of the given situation but if you are troubled with this knowledge, which indeed you are then you must act upon it and initiate a response that, in my humble opinion will in time be the right choice. For instance your friend could perhaps find out that you knew of these lies and then a whole new set of complex circumstances arise because of your silence. My advice is to tell your friend in a discreet and controlled manner and let them alone decide what steps they will forge. Be well Sweeti and I do sincerely hope that your friend recognises your true friendship. Androgoth XXx

  8. Jorge says:

    Is the person being lied to a friend or a casual acquintance? IS the liar counting on your silence, or using it to further the lie? Will revealing the lie cause greater pain/loss to the one being lied to than the results of the perpetation of the lie? What kind of retaliation is the liar capable of against you? And ultimately, what does your heart tell you is the right thing to do? In the end, you’re the one who has to live with yourself. Be well,J.

  9. Arctic says:

    Hey MJ,.finally come to say hello to you here even temporarily,!the appropriate reaction depends on the his intention, if it is is a "white li"e, just regard it as it is true, otherwise, get him know…happy new week!

  10. charming says:

    Quite difficult question.If it doesn’t harm anybody and save his life.. or dignity.. just listen without any response or reaction..or otherwise better you indicate that you know he/she lying..Don’t worry M… Lies are everywhere… our whole life is a lie :)Have a wonderful dayCha

  11. charming says:

    All the rules of good conduct involve respect that is founded upon the understanding of equality and reciprocity. In this context, right speech involves respect for truth and respect for the welfare of others. If one speaks with these criteria in mind, one will be cultivating right speech and through this one will achieve greater harmony within society. Traditionally we speak of four aspects of right speech. Right speech means to avoid lying, to avoid back biting or slander, to avoid harsh speech, and to avoid idle talk. Some of you may recall the Buddha’s instruction to Rahula regarding the importance of avoiding lying. He used the example of a vessel. The vessel had a tiny bit of water in the bottom and He asked, "Rahula, see the small amount of water in the bottom of the vessel. Those who are not ashamed of lying, their virtue is small, their renunciation is small like the small amount of water in the vessel." Then the Buddha threw away the water and said, "those who are not ashamed of lying throw away their virtue just as this water is thrown away." Then the Buddha showed Rahula the empty vessel and said, "just so empty is the virtue, the renunciation of those who habitually tell lies."Thus He used the vessel as a means to illustrate the point that lying is intimately associated with one’s practice of wholesome actions, with one’s good conduct, with one’s character. Once we are confident that we can act in one way and speak in another, then we will not be afraid to act badly, because we will be confident that we can cover up our bad actions by lying. Lying therefore opens the door to all kinds of unwholesome actions. Slander is divisive. It creates quarrels between friends. It creates pain and discord. So just as one would not want to be divided from one’s friend by slander, so ought one not to slander another. So also one ought not to abuse others with harsh words, but on the contrary should speak courteously to others as one would like to be spoken to oneself.

  12. ··¤ SETH says:

    When was the last time you got excited because somebody lied to you? What about the last time you said “I know you lied because you were afraid I’d be upset if I learned the truth, so thanks for having my back there.”? The problem with liars is that even if they have the best intentions in the world, what they’re doing is still destroying the bridge of trust between the two people. Their “act of kindness” is anything but kindness, and the long term problems it presents can be just as detrimental as the short term ones. Telling a lie is an extremely selfish act. The liar doesn’t want to face the consequences and repercussions of their actions, so they’re banking on a lie to carry them past those. Words are cheap, but all the money in the world can’t buy back an exposed lie! Liars always are shown in the end for what they are. I call them on it and then stay as far away as possible from them! Sometimes when I hear a lie, I will listen and stare directly at their eyes and hold my stare to the point where they feel I know their dishonesty, it makes them feel awkward. Try it.

  13. Grandma's says:

    No…don’t be silent. Tell the liar that you refuse to be a part of his/her game and that he/she should come clean otherwise you will have no choice but to speak to the person being lied to about this. Being in the middle of such a situation is extremely unpleasant and not at all fair to you. You may lose a friend over this…the question is which person is the true friend…the liar or the one being lied to.Good luck with this (I’m certain you will make the right decision).~Karin~

  14. Michiko's says:

    Why some people liar in first place? it is much easir for tell truth…otherwise you need to remember what I have told to people it doesn’t make sense? Some wormen tell lied for just attractant for other people?But I don’t understand your friend tell you lied? Only thing you can suggested to him that I don’t think that is not right? are you meant that?? It all dependents on the matter? at office or as friends of yours?hopefully you can thought out this awkward situation between you and friend. Enjoy warm weather,Michiko

  15. Lady says:

    A difficult situation to find yourself in. Just follow your heart, inside you know what’s right. Your instincts will tell you, no matter what anyone else says. Look to your heart Sweeti.LadyPx

  16. sillygloop says:

    Why not confront the liar and ask them to come clean. Tell them that in the long run, they’d be hurt more than the person they lied to.

  17. Minty's mamma says:

    Depends on the situation and on what you consider to be more important: retaining status-quo despite of the lie or getting the truth out since keeping it inside only makes everything worse. Good luck Sweeti.

  18. Jacqui's says:

    I hate drama, and tend to stay out of things and keep what I know a secret. I guess it would depend on who the liar is lying to, and if I’m fiercely protective of them.

  19. Jacqui's says:

    My sister’s ex was keeping something from her once, and I knew about it. I told him that I would give him a week to tell her himself or I would.

  20. zorro says:

    youhouuuu! :Dgood eveniing Sweetii’s! :Din my oPinion, it s a confident questiOng. it s seems a confident…have a nice week end! 😀

  21. Bea says:

    Ik hoop dat je ondertussen weet hoe je met deze situatie moet omgaan?! (})

  22. ღ_BabyEvelyne says:

    Heey’kes Marijke!hoe gaat ‘t er mee? Met mij gaat ‘t wel. Ben er al bovenop aan ‘t geraken wat m’n slechte sollicitatie betreft. Laat ons hopen dat ‘k snel iets op ‘t oog heb.Heb je een beetje genoten van ‘t Paasweekend? ‘t Mijne is voorbij gevlogen, zoals altijd *haha*Zeg, ‘k wil nu niet onbeleefd zijn, maar wat is er gebeurt? Je blog ziet er niet echt positief uit. Allé ja, je hoeft ‘t mij niet te vertellen als je niet wil, hé. Als ‘k kan helpen, je hoeft maar eens te gillen & ‘k ben er :-)’k Zal je latenNog een fijn weekend!KnuffBabyEvelyne

  23. ··¤ SETH says:

    A little something for you… to get through the weekend!Best wishes for a great up coming few days! :o)

  24. Michiko's says:

    Hi Sweeti san, You had agree with me our friend Vijay’s does look younger :-)Whats behind in his secret to keeps youngerlol! you and I may go to visit India ?Hope you are keeping riding the bicycle to your physical exercise….Have a wonderful weekend,Michiko

  25. T says:

    You got many advices. Is it easier to decide now?I hope you’re having nice and relxing weekend.Hug,T

  26. Newman says:

    Since it bothers u so much,why not go ahead and tell her the truth? The truth hurts,but lies always hurts more. We think we r protecting ppl from being hurt,but at the same time we become the conspiracy of liars. At least I know I won’t tolerant ppl lying to me.Nice space music:) have a nice weekend xxxRichard:)

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