SeX or VioLenCe


Why do so many parents get upset when their kids see sex,

but not even blink an eye when they’re exposed to violence on TV,
in movies or in video games?
Only in the United States is sex considered more “dangerous” than violence.
In European media, no one makes much of a fuss about nudity, for example. If you’re seeing a TV show or movie about a couple and they’re waking up in the morning and getting out of bed, you might get a glimpse of someone’s derriere, just incidentally. If that occurred on American television, however, you’d see news stories about it for weeks, threatened boycotts by watchdog groups, threats by local TV stations not to air the show and Congressional representatives threatening to hold hearings.
More than 3,500 studies have found that media violence is a significant risk factor for children and adolescents, and that it increases the likelihood of aggressive behavior, as well as desensitizing even non-violent kids
Is media violence responsible for all violence in society? No, not at all. In fact, it only contributes an estimated 10-30%. Poverty, racism, personality disturbances and family chaos all contribute more. But we could do something about media violence if we wanted, and thus make society safer. We could show less violence in our media. We could show the consequences of violence on individuals and families. We could show more TV shows and movies that have anti-violence themes. And we could show less use of weapons, especially handguns.
A mom  cant get her kid to sleep after seeing scary movie…
should she have the same prob  if the kid had seen naked brest???? I dont think so….
What about sex? 

Well, for kids under the age of 8 or 10, most of the sexual content or innuendoes they see just go right over their heads. They simply do not understand what’s happening (unless, of course, someone makes a fuss about it). For pre-teens and teens, yes, sexual portrayals are important, and there is increasing evidence that teens exposed to a lot of sexual content in their media are more likely to begin having sex at a younger age. But the problem here is that media is serving as a very powerful sex educator for kids, primarily because they’re not getting good, effective, comprehensive sex education at home from their parents or in schools. If we did a better job of educating kids about sex — instead of “abstinence-only” or “just say no” — they would probably be relatively immune to the effects of sexual content in movies and on TV.

So, in short, you are absolutely right: We need to worry far more about the impact of media violence on kids in this country and less about whether they see two seconds of a performer’s bare breast on a Super Bowl halftime show.

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28 Responses to SeX or VioLenCe

  1. prenin says:

    Couldn’t agree more! 🙂

    Violence begets violence and as for sex…

    A woman was taking her five year old on a trip in their car when a woman stood up in the back of a sports car naked to the waist.

    Shocked, the mother waited for the inevitable questions from her child only for the kid to say: “Mummy! That Lady isn’t wearing a seat belt!!!”

    Kids learn their responses from adults…

    Love and hugs!


    • chicasl10 says:

      so Prenin that says enough.
      we think kids have to be spared to see nakedness…But we are born like this.
      Its different when ppl show their naked body when they perform Like lady Gaga thats womething else.Thats not the place
      Be well Prenin

  2. arcticwl says:

    Good point MJ,
    Firstly parents lack sufficient psych knowledge for those contents. and secondly media usually forget their social responsibilities when you try to grab more eyeballs and get staffed money pockets. they avoid sex scenes just because rules and rules over there, but they try to make any possible short-cut to play around.
    it is a good call but not easily find a universal standard to solve it. more debates might still required on the long way to get it handled properly.
    Forget it first and have a great Sunday firstly 🙂

    • chicasl10 says:

      surer Wolfy..
      But as i said to Prening ..
      nakedness is oke and not wrong when its at the right place..But not on stage when singers sing their song..
      I think we should accept that we are born naked…and the sin ijn paradise made us wear clothes.
      its not easy in a prudish country like US,
      well lets see…and enjoy a new week
      its very hot at the moment…we went for a walk and had to run back
      it started to storm and temp went down like turbo..
      the weather is doign crazy here..From 30 to 13 C now.

      have a wonderful evening

  3. marciento says:

    Cześć! W Polsce sex jest już w reklamach telewizyjnych!
    Życzę miłego tygodnia!

  4. chicasl10 says:

    Oeps Marko cant read ur language.
    have a nice evening

  5. jennyozzy says:

    i hate violent films and programmes no need to show people being hurt theres enough in reality if parents know theres a sexy show on they can decide what to let their kids watch but a few nudy bits is normal how many kids have seen bare flesh at home when we get out of the bath or shower if we dont act embarrassed kids wont either it doesnt hurt to see mild sex on tv much better than a violent film xxjen

    • chicasl10 says:

      thats it Jenn
      its normal that parents act normal Kids wont think abt the fact its something to be ashamed abt, its so wierd that in an amercan movie a couple had a rugh night The lady goes to shower and covers her body with a sheet???
      my god they had sex and then she is so called ashamed??? I dnt get that
      btw i wish u a wonderful day

  6. Artswebshow says:

    My sentiments exactly.
    Besides as a teen a nip slip is like winning tickets to a rock concert

  7. Good points you have made in this blog , I was under the impression that nudity on tv was more free in America than it seems in this writing , I realize that European media is much more open but here in Australia , American nudity seems to be like American violence , on the up and up and a part of the natural world of American media.
    The bottom line with nudity and violence is that its up to the parents to protect the children and if needs be to protect them further by complaints to your broadcasting people and finally Congress ,
    People power works if you have the people behind a protest

    • chicasl10 says:

      its like i wrote on Jenn Ian
      the hypocrit action is that ppl are ashamed for the normal things and thats wrong as violence in games and kids playing with guns and do war games???
      that seems NORMAL these days..I read a time ago a parents teached his kid ( 5 years old) to handle a gun..Cruel no??

  8. Androgoth says:

    Yes the violent aspect of television these days is
    overkill and they splash the screens with this kind
    of material every day, indeed even cartoons are not
    safe in this environment, in that children are thrust
    into violence at every given opportunity… Nudity is
    also something that is offered without restrictions,
    of course I don’t mean pornographic but they are
    certainly strutting their stuff on the music channels
    and these are all directed towards adolescents… All
    have differing content but they are highly suggestive
    and uneccesary… Nudity in general terms should
    not be such an issue but as one parent thinks one
    way, another parent sees it differently and so the
    ridiculousness of the two are lost in a crazy world
    of what is, and what is not acceptable for our kids…

    This is a very good posting Sweeti

    Androgoth XXx

    • chicasl10 says:

      Nudity has a function..Indeed Andro as i dont like that lady Gaga she has a video ( i think he is sensured with u) where she sings and is totally naked on stage. Sge throws herself on the crowd (NAked) and let everyone touch her
      while singing?????? i dont understand such things I wrote abt this time ago.
      and then American ppl are ashamed to show a functional nudity in a movie.
      as a woman goes to shower after a heavy night??
      and as i already wrote..Kids dont need to be ashamed for their body Its a start of a crazy life..And then the violence Where are the times of Bambi
      I wish u a wonderful day Andro

  9. Hello Mj,
    I hear all the time from people with young kids how hard it is to find a good film without violence of some sort in it. Violence and nudity, always a hot topic for parents, schools, churches, etc, most don’t want their children seeing either, but like Andro says…to each their own about what’s acceptable to their kids.
    Hope you have a great day.
    Hugs, Nikki

    • chicasl10 says:

      is is Nikki Today its not easy to let ur kids grow up in a decent way.
      But we can teach them that there is nudity and nudity..its so diff.
      like what Prenin writes ..The kid has no troubles with the brests..Its of course not normal to show everything Like the lady Gaga. Its not in function to singing.
      And the violence …as i wrote to Andro Where is Bambi…Walt disney.
      hard times for parents indeed
      I wish u a wonderful day Nikki

  10. Hot summer days with temp’s in the 100’s made a person want to shed clothes. At our home nudity was common place. Our daughters grew up knowing what the human body looks like. Some folks in the community we lived in also thought nothing of it. Our children grew up seeing the human body as it was create. Children at the community grew up with healthy sexual attitudes.
    Media like television and cinema unfortunately tend to perverse sex and here-in is start of the problem. Children need guidance at every step and on every corner. Sex is a curious aspect of life and that curiousity never fades. Once able youthful curiousity will be satisfied one way or another.
    Violence should NEVER be seen by children anywhere in any form this includes television and cinema.

    what you write here Sweeti needed to be said…thanks for doing that
    love, Eddie

    • chicasl10 says:

      It is Eddie
      when u make nudity normal then kids will not have problems with that.
      Its a normal thing God made us like this
      Obscene things are something different.
      and violence is something that has to every way
      tx Ediie Enjoy ur evening

  11. It’s the same in India too.

  12. Michiko says:

    This is a great post! Do you know place like Japan we have a public bath in the hot spring bath and some place are still the man and woman bath together….
    We have a lots of violence people and still used the gun to kills an innocence people it almost copy cats from TV. It should be closing off from our society.
    Thank you for all the email.
    Have a nice weekend Sweeti san,

  13. penpusherpen says:

    You are so right on the button, Sweeti, violence seems to be accepted as normal, yet show nudity in any form and the alarm bells go off. I think there are more violent shows on TV and Films which children should be shielded from, but it seems to be left to parents choice. More and more TV shows seem to be upping the levels of on screen violence, to try and gain more adult viewers, and I bet many of them are watched by children too. By watching these shows, children are becoming conditioned to accepting that violence is the way to solve problems. Is there any wonder there are so many violent outbreaks in schools today? xPenx

    • chicasl10 says:

      it is Pen.
      kids think its normal to hurt and kill
      cos they see every day.
      I was on a visit once with a colleague ..she had a baby…during our visit the elder girl was watching tv
      well my god … i saw the screen and i was chocked what i saw..
      Mom was not aware what her kid saw
      tv went off… but still…i think parents should more check what kids watch
      be well Lady p

  14. prenin says:

    Hi Sweety!!! 🙂

    Sounds like your weather is as strange as ours only more so.

    Yesterday and the night before it was too warm to sleep properly and today we have cloud and chilly breezes, so I had to put my heating on! 😦

    I have some chilled alcopops (Vodka Blue and Vodka & Lemon) so I plan on drinking cold drinks and relaxing in front of a fan when it gets warm again! 🙂

    Love and hugs always hun!


  15. Seth@ChaosHQ's says:

    ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨)
    (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Well.. as much as some people may shake their heads, I consider myself to be a RESPONSIBLE Parent and I accept responsibility for what my minor child is watching, because I monitor his television program. Each parent can have different views on what is and isn’t acceptable for their kids to see. For example, I don’t give two hoots about the “bad language” on most shows as it is still fairly mild and not every word is a cuss word in the show. Any kid above the age of about 5 will hear worse most days at recess.
    I also don’t share most people’s prudity about nudity. However, sexual situations are another matter. I don’t mind if my 4 soon to be 5-year old happens to see a butt, penis or nipple, but I really don’t want him to watch Wild Orchid-style sex scenes just yet… that’s reserved for me only!! 🙂
    I truly believe that the temperment of the child must be taken into consideration. Some children don’t necessarily grasp that what they’re seeing isn’t real. A child that is easily influenced, or shows a propensity toward violent behavior should be monitored more closely than a child who is somewhat more well adjusted.
    I am against Censorship… I think that Parents NEED to be more active and tuned in to what their KIDS are seeing on TV. BUT, do NOT tell me that Icannot watch what I like. 🙂 … I like my nudity and violence/action. 🙂
    Just my opinion.

    • Seth@ChaosHQ's says:

      ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨)
      (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Violence is something that I worry more about than nudity. But also, violence in the media has become the whipping boy for all of today’s social ills. (Personally, I think it has more to do with careless parenting.) The problem may lie with the lack of consequences for violence in the media; ie: in comedic violence, a guy may be hit in the face with a baseball bat, but all he does is moan and recovers almost immediately. This may leave some kids with the impression that hitting their friend with a baseball bat won’t hurt him all that much, and is somewhat funny. I can tell you… from first hand experience, when a person is hit in the face with a baseball bat, there’s NOTHING funny about it and HE/SHE does get seriously hurt!!!
      We will never see the day where there is no sex or violence on TV. So we best deal with it and it all starts with how we choose to communicate to our kids on their program viewing.
      Great entry MJ…….. as always you got me thinking!! 🙂

  16. chicasl10 says:

    i know what u mean hehe ur a fan of Mickey Rourke?? ‘The WIld Orchid I watched thatmovie several times It has so much beautiful mistery scenes with foggy thoughts.
    Watching nudity in a Normal way Is normal.The difference between porn and Normal sex thats the point.
    When u see persons on a stage half nude or Compleetly nude ( as LAdy G) is for my opinion useless
    its the same that young ppl think i do that also cos ppl accept nudity on stage,..Why cant i run naked on a festival??? more upcoming singers here in Belgium think they need less clothes to have fans. Or even Rihanna is dressing more obscene than before.its getting vulgair for my eyes.
    and abt the so called funny bat in the face ..well SUCH things need to stop.
    the young kids think its funny and normal. But as we say.
    think normal and do normal. and dont let innocent kids see half death bodies or do killing shooting games
    Thats whats worrying me the most. What will bcome of their kids?
    i know ur a good parent Seth thumbs up

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